tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9215006984353817373.post5264124914178062067..comments2024-03-29T00:09:28.302+00:00Comments on 99% is ....... The Barnet Eye: We've spent our kids inheritanceRog Thttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08139705078907584931noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9215006984353817373.post-10382920922084057502015-10-28T06:40:03.321+00:002015-10-28T06:40:03.321+00:00Caroline
When I took my mother to A&E in 2006,...Caroline<br />When I took my mother to A&E in 2006, I was chatting to the nurses. I was keen to get her seen, out of hospital and home ASAP. They were quite surprised. They told me two things which shocked me. The first was that I was virtually unique in not wanting to simply park an elderly relative in hospital over christmas. The second was that it was a relatively common practice for people to simply dump elderly relatives with dementia at A&E without any ID. When I said I was shocked by this, they said I clearly hadn't got a clue what the general public were really like. <br /><br />I'm sure most people never do such things and never take decisions lightly, but I am sorry to say I totally disagree with the concept that we should never say anything challenging because it might offend someone who is a nice person. if we have a society where no one ever says anything because someone might get upset, we will end up with a despicable society where the people who are not OK cn get away with murder because everyone is too scared to say anything. It may sound harsh, but I'd rather run the risk of upsetting a few people and having an open, honest and frank discussion. I believe that anyone who has a relative in care because they honestly couldnt cope wouldn't give a monkey about my opinion anyway. Rog Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08139705078907584931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9215006984353817373.post-37531639927070712922015-10-27T23:37:52.639+00:002015-10-27T23:37:52.639+00:00Rog, you shouldn't make flippant comments abou...Rog, you shouldn't make flippant comments about putting the old folks into care, it's lazy. In six years working with unpaid family carers I have not met anyone who took the decision lightly.<br />As you say, mortgages are unaffordable, it takes two wage earners to service the loan. Grandparents are increasingly relied upon for childcare. People are retiring later. Where is the pool of people available to look after disabled relatives?<br />Even when carers are dealing with someone who barely recognises them, is doubly incontinent, doesn't sleep and is aggressive or abusive many persist. It is incredibly difficult to acknowledge you can no longer cope and that residential care is the best decision. Once someone is in residential care there is huge guilt and worry that the right thing has been done.<br />If I'd just been through this process and read what you said I think I'd find it really upsetting that anyone would think it was an easy alternative.carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04961806702270266273noreply@blogger.com